As I think about my friend, my sister in law Anita Eason Neicy I think about when the carnival came to Pinetops years ago and set up by Piggly Wiggly she left with them.
I will never forget she called me and I went to Warrenton where the carnival was set up to pick her up. She was glad to see Pinetops.
Neicy would call me from time to time and leave a message on my house phone if my wife didn’t get the call. I would say Neicy call my cell phone you know I ain’t never home.
Neicy would always ask me how my wife was doing and the children and had I heard from my daughter her niece.
Neicy would call me to see how I was doing but most of all she would say she either talked to my dad or she had called and couldn’t get him. She was always checking on my daddy especially after he had his surgeries.
Neicy told me that I would always be her brother in law and we got along well.
When I heard Monday she was in the hospital I was going to see her on Tuesday but then I heard about her condition so I chose not to.
Neicy was a caring and loving person. She loved herself some Bigum and Moms. She loved her some T.T. I remember she called me when T.T. was getting married. I told her that T.T. had called me about videoing his wedding and I went to meet with him but he didn’t show up. I was going to video and take photos for him and charge him because of my friendship with his mom. You see her friendship, calling checking on my dad and me meant a lot. Everybody don’t do that and especially someone who are struggling with their own life situations. This is why I videoed some of their family events for free because of Neicy showing her love.
She loved other family members as well because she would talk to me about them as well.
In spite of all that Neicy was going through over years, I never heard her say anything about her condition. I never heard her complain. What a little bitty strong woman she was.
Neicy will truly be missed but never forgotten.
We have got to do better.
When someone transitions this is when you find out how close a family and sometime friends are. Let a member of the family transition and all hell will break lose sometime.
Let a family die and do not have a will and see how family members go after each other. However sometimes even with a will won’t make a difference because somebody going to still be mad.
If there is a will sometimes family will get mad because the deceased didn’t leave them what they thought they should get. Well damn that ain’t for you to decide, that was the decision the deceased made.
When there is no will family will get mad with each other as if they created the mess. The one to be mad with is the deceased if you want to be mad with anyone.
I have experienced some things dealing with folk when a family member transitions and it just make no sense how family get mad and quit speaking. You were living before this situation occurred so you will continue to live on.
Black folk including myself, it is time we get it together. We have got to do better.
It is sad that we all can’t just get along. If we can’t get along with family who we got. Yes we have friends but family.
We have got to do better.
We have got to learn that we didn’t come here to stay and we will be leaving one day.
We must understand that the same goes for our love ones. Cherish the times we have together and then cherish the memories.
Do good, live a good life and then when the time come it will be all good.
Treat your love ones right and if they leave this old world before you then you will be at peace. But if you miss the golden opportunity, then you will have a hard time dealing with the transition. That’s it right there, that is a good word to sum it up Transition.
If I don’t wake up in the morning, It will be well with my soul. I will not question the time I have on this earth because I had no say when I entered.
Note: I know what Webster says but I just don’t like to use that term. Just speaking for me.
And that is what has been going on in Rocky Mount, just because the majority are speaking out telling lies, other folk believe it because folk are silent. Just because these Special Cs and some Ignant Safe Black Folk are loud don’t make it true.
If they were right I would be on their team but right now I am #TeamDancy. I refuse to be silent allowing them to lie, lie, lie.
Come wit ya facts and stop the fuss.
But time! It takes care of all thangs.
Who mad? The loud majority.
I ain’t mad wit nobody!