A Letter To My Children

I want to let you know that I love you and I know that I have been hard on you sometimes but that is because I don’t want you to make the mistakes I have made in my life. Since I see my mistakes and have to deal with them while dealing with other things in life, I am hard on you and you have said it isn’t that serious. Some things I take real serious and some things I should have been more serious about. Some things I will recover and some things I will not be able to.

What you need to understand is that you can begin now and learn from my mistakes and and try not to make the same mistakes. However we all will make mistakes in life but again try not to make some mistakes that you have seen others make.

I challenge you to grow up and be productive children in spite of my mistakes and others around you. Nope we are not perfect people but striving for perfection is all that we can live for. Yes we may want to do some things that we like, work and make good money and become rich one day, but just be the best at whatever you do because some things we have control over and some things we don’t. So make the best of who you are and try to leave a legacy of life that will live on when you are no longer on this side.

I remember being told on several occasions that I can’t save the world and my response was that if I can save just one person then my living would not have been in vain. But my problem has been I have been carrying many burdens over the years that have taken a toll on my life personally, financially and family wise. Although I feel good about being my brothers and sisters’ keeper, there comes a time when you have to re-evaluate life and decide on how you will move forward.

So my children grow up, have fun, work hard and be the best that you can be. Just remember when I was hard on you, it was only because I love you and I don’t want to see  you fail. Some folks say let a person fail and then be there for them but that is not my philosophy. My philosophy is to encourage a person to be the best they can be because I have been there done that and if I could change the way I have done some things, I would be better off today.

Although it is in your DNA to help other folks because I know your heart, I know my heart because that is how I was raised, but in a world today it is just too much burden to carry trying to do things and neglecting yourself. Never neglect self, however in the meantime you can be there for others but be there for yourself first because at the end of the day others will continue to just want more and you will continue to put yourself on the back burner and you will neglect self.

Nashonda Lavette Sherrod my oldest I am proud of you. You have gone to college and you are doing some great things in your profession and in the ministry.

India Matita Dancy my middle child I am proud of you. You have gone to college and you will continue to do good things because your breakthrough is coming soon.

Curmilus Dancy III my baby boy I am proud of you. You are doing good in the middle of your high school Junior Year. I know you love sports and it has been tough for you but there are bigger and better things in store for you. Keep focusing on going to college and when you go off to college and get a degree, you will do some great things.

None of you have been in any trouble nor caused me any embarrassment over the years so that within itself is a real blessing.

Now that will be grand to have 3 children to go off to college, something that I didn’t do. I hope and pray that the Lord will bless me to stay here until my youngest has completed college.

This is my desire!

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November 14, 2014

Educational Forum & Community Conversation: Affordable Care Act Meeting in Kinston

As the Affordable Care Act is being implemented in our state, North Carolina lawmakers have blocked the Medicaid program from being expanded. This means that 500,000 working adults remain uninsured this year.

Join us for a conversation in Kinston with the NC Justice Center, along with community partners to discuss:

1. the benefits of the Affordable Care Act

2. how Medicaid expansion would help your community

3. implementation of the online marketplace, including Special Enrollment Period and open enrollment

Help us spread the word and join us on Wednesday, December 3, 2014, from 6:00 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. Refreshments will be served. The event will be held at the Kinston Community Health Center, located at 324 North Queen Street in Kinston.
Click here to register, or call/email to reserve your place: Kinston Community Health Center, 252-522-4350, ext 252;  Nicole Dozier, 919-856-2146 or
nicole@ncjustice.org. Click here for the event flyer.