In 1995 I had to take care of my mom who was suffering with congested heart failure and a stroke. But she appeared healthy but her body was not. In 1997 she had another stroke and she expired in September of that year. I was by her side nightly and went to work the following day for a couple of months. I got married in 1997 and my wife took care of my mom during the day along with my mother siblings after she got bedridden.
In 1998 my youngest child was born and he stayed in the hospital off and on for the a couple of years due to suffering with asthma. A couple of years ago we had his tonsils removed and he has been doing great and do not have to get on a breathing machine.
In 1999 the flood came and my house and one of my 2 cars were in the flood. Since that time my life had been very interesting.
In December 1999 was the last time my oldest daughter came to stay with me as we were staying in a camper trailer after the flood. Because all that I had going on, our relationship went from keeping her every holiday, 2 weeks in June, July and August to zero time. So today I have no relationship with my oldest daughter. But I tried to do the right thing but there were some other obstacles that stood in the way.
In October 2012 my dad had his first hip replacement and I stayed with him at the hospital for about 2 weeks and then he went to rehab. When he came home I stayed with him every night for about 2 months and I went to work during the day.
In March 2013 my dad had his 2nd hip replacement and he went to rehab at a nursing home because of some complications he had. So I visited him every night until 10:00 PM until visiting hours were over. But when he went home someone had to stay with him. So again I had to stay with him for about 2 months at night and go to work the next day.
Inspite of all that I have endured I have kept the faith and continued to volunteer my services to the community especially through videoing funerals and etc. at little to no cost.
In 2009 my youngest daughter graduated from high school and went on to college. The first 3 years were not as bad as the last year because I had to get a Fed Loan in 2012 and 2013 her senior year as if I was in school. I was determined to sacrifice because I hate it when so many children goes to college for a couple of years and then have to drop out due to finances.
I am so glad that God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
So I have made up mind that it is time for a change. It is time for a new environment and time for simply doing something different. I have been trying to make sure everybody else was happy so now it is time for me to be happy. Although seeing other folks happy brings joy to me but there comes a time when one need to do some things that will make themselves happy. There is a couple of things that I want to accomplish and now is the time for me to starting working on my change. I am beginning a work in process so I hope to be able to make some changes in 2014 that will bring about happiness and joy to all of the family and myself.
Stay tuned he ain’t through with me yet.