December 16, 2010

Tamara Allen


"I just found out a few days ago that my 15-year-old daughter has been "sexting" on her cell phone with a boy from her school. Up to this point I have never checked my daughter’s phone or gone through her text messages. I just trusted her to be responsible and do the right thing. And although I disagree with her "sexting," I feel bad that I invaded her privacy. I want to talk to my daughter about her actions, but I don’t want to jeopardize my daughter’s trust and even worse become one of those snooping parents that constantly checks up on her child and only causes her child to become even more secretive."
— A Trusting Parent

Dear Trusting Parent:

As a mother of two teenagers, I believe in giving them a level of privacy and teaching them responsibility, but I believe even greater in "checks and balances!" This means I am going to periodically "check" everything! I scroll through the iPod from time to time and listen to the music they are listening to. I look through text messages, emails, and even do a periodic Facebook friend check. This is my way of letting my children know that as long as I am paying, I AM paying attention! Technology and the Internet make it easier for parents to lose visibility. It becomes our responsibility to go the extra mile and ensure that we are on top of the game!

Unfortunately "sexting" is not a rare or isolated occurrence. More and more teens are sending sexually explicit text messages and photos. Many think this is a way of having "safe sex" and do not consider the serious consequences. Not only can "sexting" lead to the real sexual act, but it can have serious legal ramifications. Teens can be charged with distributing pornography, sexual harassment, and can even end up having to register as a sexual predator if convicted of a sexually related crime. In addition it creates a paper trail, which if exposed, could become a very damaging and embarrassing experience. All of these consequences can greatly affect a teen’s life and future endeavors!

As parents, it is our job and responsibility to help guide children and protect them from those things that do not see or fully understand. Even if you do not "reveal your sources," you need to talk with your daughter about sex and "sexting" TODAY!

Tamara R. Allen is the author of "Been There Done That: And Lived to Tell About It" (due out Spring 2011). She is also Your Advice Guru giving REAL advice from REAL experience. Email your questions to, follow her on twitter @tamararallen, and check out her daily columns and archives at

Charles Penny Has Been Named The New Rocky Mount City Manager

Assistant City Manager Charles Penny will move the city of Rocky Mount forward as the new Rocky Mount City Manager. Penny has worked on numerous projects and most recently he has played a major role in the downtown redevelopment. With all that is going on in Rocky Mount and Nash and Edgecombe Counties that has ties to Rocky Mount, Penny is probably the best person for the job. Penny’s transition into his new role should keep the city on track without missing a beat.

Congratulations Mr. Penny and I look forward to seeing you take Rocky Mount to the next level.


December 16, 2010

Taunia Soderquist


Nationwide ( — Rhythm, Rhyme, Results (known as RRR and pronounced ‘triple R’), a leading producer of contemporary educational materials using hip hop music styles, celebrates Black History Month with a special collection of Black History Month Songs. The collection traces four centuries of African-American history in the US and includes educational rap songs about the countries of Africa, the Civil War, the Civil Rights Movement, and the 44 US Presidents. Timelines, worksheets, lyrics, and other important resources add academic and entertainment value for teachers and students.

Founded in late 2007, Rhythm, Rhyme, Results’ mission is to reach students of varied backgrounds and skill levels by delivering academic content through culturally relevant music. RRR has built a library of 50+ songs in Math, Language Arts, Science, Social Studies and Economics for upper elementary, middle school and early high school students. The company’s success can be heard in classrooms in all of the 50 states in the US, and in over 25 countries around the world. RRR music has been featured in a number of student and teacher videos on YouTube and Teacher Tube. All RRR materials are available in CD, download or streaming audio formats.

Founded by Robert Mitchell and Ben Jackson, and led by Dr. Isaiah Jackson, an African-American college professor and former orchestra conductor with 35 years of teaching and conducting experience, RRR’s young, hip company and network of professional musicians collaborate and continue to produce new songs for the ever-growing library. RRR songs have earned kudos from Common Sense Media and two 2009 Parents’ Choice Awards.

In addition to celebrating Black History Month with their album collection, RRR will also feature articles, information, and interesting facts about Black History Month on the RRR blog.

Please visit for more information.

[Office of Governor Bev Perdue] An historic speech to thelegislature

Office of Governor Bev Perdue

Gov. Perdue calls on legislature to take bold action

DSC_0151.JPGGov. Perdue this week urged members of the General Assembly to take three bold steps to reform how the legislature does business.

Gov. Perdue addressed a meeting of current and newly-elected lawmakers, the first time in at least a dozen years, if ever, that a sitting North Carolina governor has addressed the General Assembly in this way.

Gov. Perdue’s address comes days after she outlined her own plan to reorganize and consolidate state government.

“Our fellow citizens – no matter how they voted in this election or what political affiliation they put beside their names – are looking to us in this room to position North Carolina for a successful and competitive future” she said. “The people of this state – all of us – want to guarantee that North Carolina’s best days are ahead of us, and that life will be better for our children and grandchildren than for ourselves.”

DSC_0177.JPGGov. Perdue’s proposals to the legislature were based on bills that had been filed in previous sessions. She asked them to:

— Limit the length of time the General Assembly can remain in session. Long sessions would last 90 days and short sessions would end after 45 days. Those limits would save taxpayers millions that could be used to save jobs for teachers and essential state services.

— Pass a Voter Empowerment Act to establish an independent redistricting commission that would ensure fairness as legislative maps are defined – another idea that many members of the legislature have supported for years.

— On her first day in office, Gov. Perdue signed an executive order to better define public records, increase transparency, and give taxpayers more access to government information. The General Assembly should review any statutes which regulate accountability for the legislative branch, and make those regulations consistent with her executive order.

Gov. Perdue told lawmakers she looks forward to working with them to refashion state government for the 21st century.

“Help me transform North Carolina’s government and services as you also transform the way the General Assembly works,” she said.

To read Gov. Perdue’s speech, click here.

Gov. Perdue brokers new energy efficient standards for North Carolina building

This week, the N.C. Building Code Council adopted new energy-efficient standards for residential and commercial construction, a victory for “green” energy in the state.

“This is a big win for North Carolina,” Gov. Perdue said after the council’s vote.

Gov. Perdue stepped in after a September meeting in which the Council voted to delay action on energy efficiency. Her office brokered a compromise.

The council set building standards that will require additional 15 percent energy efficiency in residential construction and 30 percent more efficiency for residential buildings starting in 2012. The council also adopted a voluntary 30 percent standard for residential construction.

In an effort to prevent further economic stress to the housing industry, Gov. Perdue agreed to allow the home building industry to submit a list of “offsets” – other changes to the building code that would reduce the cost of energy efficient building standards.

The Building Code Council, which sets building standards, will review the offset list. Gov. Perdue said the council must now select cost offsets that do not lower safety standards.

“Now it’s up to the Building Code Council to find a path that reduces building costs without compromising safety,” Gov. Perdue said.

Governor’s schedule for the week

Monday, Dec. 20

Year-end news media interviews

Call time

Attend biennial state employees’ ethics training


Tuesday, Dec. 21

Staff meetings

Jobs announcement, Triangle area


Wednesday, Dec. 22

Staff meetings

Year-end news media interviews


Have a happy and safe holiday!!


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December 16, 2010

Wanda Adams
Marketing Ministry



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Aulander, NC ( — CJ Ballance is taking the gospel music industry by storm with his debut album, If God Said It. Singing from his heart, this North Carolina teen may be young in age but as a lot to share. Hailing from a family of singers, CJ was destined to sing. From the tender age of 2yrs old, CJ has been sharing his gift of song, starting at his local childcare facility. He recalls, "I didn’t realize the gift I had at the time, but it was something I like to do." It wouldn’t be until some years later CJ would discover the great plans God had in store for him and his gift.

If God Said It features 10 dynamic gospel tracks that are sure to uplift and inspire. With his current hit single "I Don’t Look Like," CJ is creating a buzz within the gospel community and gaining worldwide acclaim. His single features Rev Franklin Williams and is rapidly climbing the charts. This project cross generational boundaries as it features music that resonates with every age group. With songs like, "This too shall pass" a song of endurance while at the same time reminding us of God’s faithfulness.

It’s no doubt that with one listen to CJ’s music you’ll soon discover why he’s being championed as the future of gospel music. Although some may be stunned at the power of his youthful voice, this teen has had experiences to draw from. "The world is changing everyday," says CJ. "And for teenagers today, we go through more than anyone could even imagine." It’s his close walk with God that keeps him on the straight and narrow. And when it comes to music ministry, it’s his prayer that everyone who hears If God Said It, draws even closer to God once they come into the realization that if God said it, that settles it.

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Tony Porter: A call to men

At TEDWomen, Tony Porter makes a call to men everywhere: Don’t "act like a man." Telling powerful stories from his own life, he shows how this mentality, drummed into so many men and boys, can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other. His solution: Break free of the "man box." (Watch Video 11:14)

Ex-Detroit Mayor Kwame Kilpatrick indicted by feds on 19 mail fraud, tax counts–Source: Detroit

Kwame Kilpatrick illegally used the nonprofit Kilpatrick Civic Fund like a piggy bank to pay for crisis consultants, a Cadillac, trips — even summer camp for his kids — a federal grand jury said Wednesday, charging the former mayor with 19 counts of fraud and tax evasion. (Read more

Note: This was so ignant to be so smart but yet so dumb. All of this leads to a paper trail so why would one believe they could get away with such a trail being left behind? C. Dancy II – DCN Publisher

[CoalitionofConcernedCitizensforAfricanAmericanChildren] Updates


Greetings! Hope you’re staying warm and dry during this wintery blast of weather. Here is today’s update.

Margiotta blames Goldman – again

Yesterday, I posted a link to BOE Chair Ron Margiotta’s WPTF interview this week with Bill Lumaye. You can read some of Margiotta’s comments, blaming the BOE’s lack of progress on student assignment on Vice Chair Debra Goldman, here on the WakeEd blog. I don’t know about you, but the PR spin Margiotta is weaving [to demonize Goldman and build public outcry against her for "switching sides"] makes me dizzy. Please consider emailing Mr. Marg iotta and the rest of the BOE to remind them that Wake County’s BOE is supposed to be nonpartisan. This "us vs. them" mentality is not productive for anyone, least of which the children of Wake County.

Sutton on WAUG-AM today at 4PM

BOE member Keith Sutton will talk about the Republican BOE members’ failed attempted to reassign 6,000+ minority students to Southeast Raleigh schools on "Make it Happen." The show will air at 4PM today, Dec. 16, on WAUG (750 AM).

Raleigh among least segregated

I sent the link to this story earlier this week, but wanted to highlight that it lists Raleigh as one of the least segregated cities in the country. Much credit for this is due to WCPSS’s diversity policy — which is no longer in effect as of 2010, thanks to the current BOE. Here are some additional observations on this topic, courtesy of a Great Schools in Wake colleague:

"Folks in Wake County don’t have to worry about avoiding certain parts of town (due to) high-poverty schools. A lot of "white flight" or "middle-class flight" in other cities gets started because people are worried about the schools. And once the "flight" starts, the worries come true — tragic for those who "flee" and also for those who are left behind!

(John) Tedesco has argued that we don’t need a diversity policy because our towns are relatively integrated. He is wrong about this in (at least) two ways:

1. Even though we are not as segregated as most cities, we are still somewhat segregated. Many neighborhoods are COMPLETELY segregated.

2. The diversity policy is the REASON we are not segregated, and eliminating it will CAUSE segregation, over the years."

Snow make-up days

WCPSS has altered its schedule for snow make-up days. Please refer to the website for the latest info.

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